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What Every Woman Needs To Know About Sex Parties

Cliche Wynter Published by Cliche Wynter
Published on August 28, 2014

Is there a limit to how far inherently curious women will go to explore their sexual desire? Even the most open-minded among us might fear they're out of their league when it comes to sex parties. But could a lot of those reservations be eased if we knew what to expect? Seeing as knowledge is power, we spoke with the hosts of Chemistry, a New York based 'sensual gala', to find out what they're REALLY like.

For many women, the mere thought of erotic parties can conjure images of perversion they hope they never have to witness. It's no surprise, then, that attending one isn't exactly on everyone's shortlist of things to do in their lifetime.

But what if we told you that a sex shindig might not be the hedonistic free-for-all you always imagined it to be? What if we told you there is a method to the sensual madness after all?

In an attempt to quell concerns (and feed our own curiosity), we spoke with KennyBlunt and OksanaKissallover, co-hosts of New York based sex party Chemistry. They clued us in on the process of getting invited, what to expect, and how it all goes down at their self-proclaimed 'sensual gala'.

Ladies, here's everything you need to know before attending.

There's A Screening Process

Sorry, if you're not on the list, you're not allowed entry. Guests of the Chemistry event must first undergo a screening before they can even think about attending.

The screening, however, isn't anything comprehensive. It mainly consists of a short questionnaire with inquiries ranging from "what's your first name?" to "what is your philosophy on sex?". It concludes with asking you for a G-rated photo of yourself (No pornography, please). If/when you do get selected, your image will be used to identify you at the door.

The Screening Is Subjective

We asked Kenny how they go about sifting through applicants. He said, "It's all subjective. But there are certain red flags to look out for." Some of those red flags include: not putting effort into your responses, giving short answers, and cheating on a spouse."

So if you're truly interested in attending, show a bit enthusiasm, genuine interest, and don't even think about going behind your partner's back.

Once you've been selected, you'll be notified and invited via e-mail. Yes, it's "all old-fashioned e-mail," says Kenny.

It's For Couples AND Singles

BUT single males should only apply if they intend on going to future events with a female Chemistry member.

Know Why You Want To Attend

Knowing why you want to attend is very important. Kenny recommends asking yourself, "Why? Is it because you’re getting over a break-up? Would you be comfortable?"

Oksana wants you to "be open-minded and curious. Go to explore. Go if you feel like it."

No, it's NOT Like Eyes Wide Shut

When we think sex parties, we immediately envision the 1999 Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman classic Eyes Wide Shut. Naturally, we were curious to know if the real thing is anything like its cinematic depiction. The answer? Not really. “It’s a very ballet-like movie. The people weren’t acting like human beings.” Kenny said.

Another thing of note: there are no masks at Chemistry. There’s a general understanding of privacy and there’s a strict no phones policy.

You Don’t HAVE to have sex

One of the biggest misconceptions about erotic parties is that you have to have sex if you attend. Oksana assured us that's not the case, at least not for their events. “We like to take a more attractive approach,” she revealed.

What exactly does that entail? An assortment of drinks, food, music, and an elegant ambiance for starters. So if you're not feeling frisky, help yourself to everything else the night has to offer.

Yes, You WILL See Naked People...

However hardcore intimacy is reserved for designated “play areas”. These are more secluded spaces where you can feel more comfortable to get naughty.

The Women Outnumber The Men

At Chemistry, you can expect the turnout to be 60% women and 40% men. They're adamant about providing a "female-energy-centric environment".

Know Your Boundaries

Before you even step foot into the party, be well aware of just how far you're willing to go. Set your limits, and stick to them!

While there, you have to give an audible "no" or "yes" if you'd like to be intimate with another attendee.

Safe Sex Is A MUST

Chemistry even provides condoms, so there's no excuse not to protect yourself!

There you have it, folks! What are your thoughts on sex parties? Would you ever attend one? Tweet us @wewomenUSA!

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