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Threesomes: How To Decide If You Should Have Sex With Your Man AND Another Woman

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Published on January 27, 2015

Just a few minutes into the 'what's your ultimate fantasy chat' with your man, you can bet your bottom dollar that have a threesome with another smoking hot female is going to be near the top of the list. But he's not alone, 98% of straight guys find the idea of a threesome damn sexy. Why are we not surprised?

Why are men so obsessed with threesomes?

A major part of the appeal for a guy is the fact that having a threesome will earn him enough man miles to impress his mates until he's old and gray. Having two women at the same time is the stuff of legend, a conquest to be proud of. Being able to satisfy two women in the same session is a super power in itself, so for guys, the ego stroking potential of a threesome is irresistible.

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But for us girls, it's a bit different. Joining forces with another woman to satisfy our man can feel degrading - aren't we enough on our own? We all know sometimes he can barely handle a party of two.

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The thing to remember is that the fantasy is just that: a fantasy. As long as you are comfortable exploring with your own boundaries as well as your sexuality as a couple that's all that matters.

Should you have a threesome?

Before taking the plunge, it's important to talk about whether you could handle the reality of a threesome. The fantasy part is easy - the real life three-in-a-bed scenario is a bit more intimidating. For you and for your guy (even if he won't admit it).

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While being able to experiment together could make you closer as a couple, there's always a chance you could feel jealous of the way another woman is stimulating your man, or you could feel pushed out. The idea of your man hooking up with somebody else can feel like betrayal, so you need to make sure you feel okay with your man hooking up with somebody else in front of you before you give the green light. Just always remember: it's a fantasy and to breathe through your nose.

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Although it may be harder for you to wrap your head around, it can rattle your man's confidence as well. Trying to pleasure two girls at once is no easy feat, and not being able to perform as well as he imagined he would he may pull away. So make sure you and your partner talk about the possible consequences of participating in a threesome. If it was all fairies and unicorns, then every couple would be doing it.

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It can definitely be a tipping point in your relationship for better, or for worse. So as long as you and your man feel like this would be a positive experiment the only thing holding you back is finding the lady to add to the mix... which may be harder than you think. Let's just hope you and your man have the same taste in women. For instance, somebody that looks like the fine female below:

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Being sure of your decision

You need to be really sure that you're not just having a threesome to prove something or to satisfy your man. You need to want try it out as much as he does, otherwise you are always going to hold it over his head. And that does not make for a very healthy relationship.

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Don't be afraid to discuss with your partner the option of having a threesome with another man instead of another woman. Or trying out both? Relationships are about transparency and compromise, and that should definitely apply to one of the biggest sexual decisions of your relationship. Speak now or forever hold your threesome peace.

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How to choose your partner(s)?

If you're in a relationship, it's probably best to choose someone you're not likely to see regularly again, not a friend (too much jealousy is possible) and no work colleagues (imagine the atmosphere at work)! And make sure you use protection with them, and that they're all checked and clean - you don't want your threesome experience to have enduring side effects...that will put you off sexual experimentation forever.

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If you're the "guest" choose a couple who you respect and who you feel comfortable with, oh and ideally a couple where you would want to see both of them of naked.

Once you feel okay taking the plunge, enjoy the fact that you get to sit back, relax and enjoy some of the show. After all, you'll only be having to do half of the work.

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Nervous about hooking up with another girl? Here are some positions you can try out so you can participate with both parties:

Do you want to try a threesome? Tweet at us! @wewomenUSA

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