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Anal sex: the sex therapist's view
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Anal sex: the sex therapist's view


The human body is designed in an extremely practical way: while the sex organs serve to procreate, the rectum and anus serve to expel body waste. The anus seemingly has no sexual role and provides no feelings of pleasure. It is considered by socially to be a dirty part of the body, which explains the reluctance to use it for sex.
Male and female pleasure

- Men are often the ones who suggest anal sex to their partners because it provides them with intense pleasure. As the anal passage is narrower than the vagina, the penis is gripped more tightly, and the man's feelings of pleasure increase tenfold.

- Women can also derive pleasure from anal sex and some are even capable of reaching orgasm! Gradually and gently is the way to go, with the man paying full attention to what his partner tells him.
Tips

- Good hygiene is really important if you're going to engage in anal sex and it will allow you to feel more at ease. Have a wash beforehand to prevent stains or smells.
- If anal sex disgusts you, don't worry! There's no reason to force yourself, and if your partner loves you, he won't blame you. Perhaps over time, you'll become more confident with your body and you'll be willing to try it.

- Always use a condom when engaging in anal sex. Not only can sexually transmitted diseases be transmitted via this part of the body but there is also harmful bacteria present in your back passage so it's safer to suit up. NEVER go from anal sex, straight back into vaginal or oral sex with the same condom. Washing afterwards is the safest bet.

- Lubricant is a must. KY Jelly or a similiar lubricant suitable for use with condoms will ease the friction. Start with a finger and work up from there. Take it slow. We can't say that enough.


Love & Sex Editor
09/12/2012
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