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Sex therapist's opinion on giving oral sex
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Sex therapist's opinion on giving oral sex


It's not unusual to find oral sex repulsive, especially when it's your first time! The testimonies given here indicate two types of disgust: firstly, of a physical nature (nausea) and secondly, of a pyschological nature (revulsion of the man's penis, domination).
 
Why give blowjobs?

- First of all because when a woman is in love with her partner, she has a sexual appetite for his whole body, including his penis. Giving oral sex to a man can therefore give you the feeling that you're in full possession of your man.
 
- The second reason is that oral sex provides intense pleasure for a man, almost as intense as intercourse itself. If your relationship is equal, then giving each other the maximum amount of pleasure is advisable as either partner depriving the other will only lead to inequality. It should not be forced though - an open discussion is the best way to avoid any misunderstanding.
 
Tips
 
- Suggest (either directly or indirectly) to your partner that he freshens up a bit. A sensual shower together serves both as foreplay and as a way of making sure he's clean!
- Whilst giving him oral sex, place your hand around the base of his penis so he can't go too far in your throat and so you can take his penis out before ejaculation if you want.

- If you really hate giving head, using a flavored lubricant use both your hands to stroke him while just placing your lips over the tip of his penis instead.
 
- Don't position yourself underneath him. Instead, position yourself above him so you can fully control your movements and rhythm, and you won't feel like you're being dominated.


Love & Sex Editor
09/12/2012
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