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Does sex really get better with time?

   

How can couples optimize their sex lives right from the start of a relationship?
Couples should be honest and open with one another right from the start of the relationship. Women need to learn that men can handle not getting it right first time and shouldn’t fake an orgasm. Communication is the key and men and women need to know they are not mind readers and need to be open and transfer information to one another more regularly. Sex shouldn’t be seen as something performance related and the focus should be on the quality rather than the quantity. Our brains are our biggest sex organs and over time as we form strong emotional bonds, sex becomes multi-dimensional. Our brains are our biggest sex organs and over time as we form strong emotional bonds, sex becomes multi-dimensional.

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It’s often said that a woman has the best sex of her life in her thirties. Do you think this is true for most women and why?
Chemically there is nothing to suggest this is the case, but many women often experience best sex in their thirties as they are more in control, happy and are more aware and less self-conscious about their bodies. Sex lives can improve as we get older and women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and even 70s can experience the best sex of their lives.




What advice can you give couples who are stuck in a rut in the bedroom and need to get the spark back into their sex lives?

Our sex drives change according to what’s going on in our bodies; our minds; our lives. But if you need to get the spark back, it’s time to give your love life the attention it deserves. Start working on it outside of the bedroom. Plan to go out on a date. To somewhere new. Not only does this give you some space to appreciate each other; it also recreates the excitement you had at the beginning of your relationship. This kind of excitement leads to your body producing more of the happy drug, dopamine. And when you’re happy, and special, you’ll want to stay connected in the bedroom, as well as out of it.

Once this has been introduced, work at great closeness and connection in the bedroom by trying something new together. Introducing a new position or getting out a sex play product like the Philips Sensual Massager will create excitement. And that kind of sexual excitement restores the very same love drug cocktails (the chemicals PEA) that felt so intense when you first got together. Keeping this kind physical excitement alive in the bedroom will help make your sex life playful, fun and interesting. It will also play a strong role in helping you stay bonded emotionally as a couple.

Interview by SARAH HORROCKS




  
 

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09/11/2009
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