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House husband and sex life
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House husband and sex life


I've been unemployed for 9 months and I look after the kids on a full-time basis. Being a house husband didn't bother me at all until the day Sophie and I realized that my behavior in bed, or with regards to sex in general, had changed. I'm no longer as willing as I used to be, I'm always too tired or I've got a headache - honestly. I'm not very active, let's say, when I need to be, and I've practically stopped masturbating altogether.

> Expert's opinion

The idea of being a house husband can be tempting but it isn't yet considered a norm in society. In Paul's case, there's the additional factor of losing his job. Consciously or not, he feels diminished and his sexual behavior has taken a hit as a result. The reversal of traditonal male/female roles can leave men feeling less masculine.

> The (getting some) action plan
To re-establish Paul's faith in his masculinity, Sophie should show Paul that she needs him for other things than just the children. They need to be together, just the two of them, as much as possible. Paul must be reminded of what it means to be one half of a couple in order to "forget" about his fatherly qualities, it's only then that he'll be able to enjoy the pleasures of being a lover as well. They should start out slowly, without too much fuss e.g. a candlelit dinner, a bath together, a weekend away, etc.


Love & Sex Editor
07/14/2012
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