Understanding erotic dreams
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Interpretation of erotic dreams: interview with Gilles d'Ambra
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Interpretation of erotic dreams: interview with Gilles d'Ambra


Does having erotic dreams mean that we're not fully satisfied sexually? And should we be ashamed of certain dreams?
No. It's perfectly normal to have X-rated dreams, whatever the state of one's sex life. Men and women are in the same boat: they have the same amount of erotic dreams. In fact, 8% of our dreams are erotic which is quite low considering that there is an erection of the clitoris or penis every 90 minutes during sleep!

It's important not to feel ashamed of these dreams; they allow us to overcome our urges without hurting anyone. In fact, we should be pleased about them as they look after our mental health!

Are dreams exercises to unleash oneself without limits, or does censoring take place unconsciously?
It's very interesting because censoring does indeed occur, even in our dreams. Therefore, it's very rare to sleep with one's parents or cut someone up into a thousand pieces! The symbols found in dreams serve to reorganize reality.
 
In one of your books, you mention this quote from Talmud: "a dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read." So should dreams always be interpreted? And how can we be sure not to get the interpretation wrong?
There are dreams which are linked to daily life (I forgot to finish that report which I'm supposed to be handing in tomorrow, for example) and which don't require any analysis. But we can dissect the more structured dreams, taking care not to stop at just one interpretation, especially if it seems too obvious.

You need to bear in mind that the dream is your own creation; you're the director. You can therefore ask yourself why you chose a certain "actor" to interpret such a role. You should also consider how the brain associates different ideas: dreaming of the number 8 might be to do with something you 'ate'! You basically need to keep all options open.

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> Your dreams deciphered
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Love & Sex Editor
08/27/2012
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