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Casual Sex: The Dos And Don'ts Of Random Hookups

Cliche Wynter
by Cliche Wynter Published on September 9, 2014

So relationships aren't for you, but you still want to do the horizontal tango, huh? More power to you! But before you even think of having casual sex with some random dude, you need to know how to avoid total disaster. That's where we come in. Here are the dos and don'ts of random hookups. Take notes, ladies!

Casual sex isn't as simple and carefree as many people might think it is. There are rules and levels to it all - especially when you're a woman. Because we're wired to be emotional creatures, letting anyone get a taste of our goods makes us susceptible to all sort of FEELS. Ugh, those dreadful FEELS!

Ladies, you have to play it smart. If you want to reduce your risk of having a nightmare random hookup, you NEED to follow our guide.

Protect Yourself, Before You Wreck Yourself

Well, duh! If you're hitting the sack with someone you know very little about, you need to protect yourself. That means condoms AND other contraceptives. This helps to keep you clear of STDs and unwanted pregnancies.

Don't risk your health for a little sexy time. It's just not worth it.

Get Tested Regularly

Truth be told, there is a chance of you contracting a sexually transmitted disease even if you use protection. There are people who get so caught up in the moment, they refuse to tell the truth about their status. That's why it's very important to get tested on a regular basis.

Make an appointment ASAP.

Set Boundaries Immediately

Even random hookups need a set of rules. Before you decide to go for a wild romp, make sure you're both on the same page. Is it just sex? Are you looking for something more further down the line? Get and give answers accordingly.

You BOTH need to be honest and upfront about expectations and boundaries from the outset. No exceptions.

Don't Go AWOL

If you're heading out of the bar with a hottie you just met, let your friends know exactly where you're going. The last thing you want is to accidentally leave with a creep with no one aware of your whereabouts.

It's better safe than sorry. Trust us.

Cut Sleepovers Short

Sleepovers should probably never happen. But if they do, cut them short. If you're over at his place, leave before his mind has the time to register you wearing last night's makeup. If he's laying cozy in your bed, hint at you having an early morning appointment.

Homework: cut the cuddling down to nil.

No Dating Allowed

You have to fight the urge to do anything even remotely cutesy. The more effort you put in, the more likely your actions will be misconstrued for feelings. Remember those? They've got no place in casual hookups.

Candlelit dinners and couple's massages are a no-go. Forget about it!

Don't Tell Everyone About It

Not everyone needs to know everything about you. Even if you're the sort of gal who isn't fazed by other people's opinion of you, keep details of your private life private. Your classmate from 4th grade doesn't need see a status update about the dude you screwed last night.

Reserve the juicy info for your closest friends.

Have Fun

Now is the time to unleash your inner freak. Remember, this is just someone you're having fun with, so cut yourself free of inhibitions and live a little.

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