The Beginner's Guide to BDSM
  
What is BDSM?
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What is BDSM?


In the most basic form BDSM (Bondage & Discipline/ Dominance & Submission/ Sado-Masochism) is all about the erotic and sexual acts and mind-sets of dominating and relinquishing control. 
 
Nichi explains that over the years BDSM has got a pretty bad rep but the basic principles can be extremely liberating and if you engage with it in the long run, it can turn you on in a way that you would never even have thought about. 
 
"The fact that the standard media representation of BDSM is of something seedy and silly sometimes makes it feel like a taboo," she explains.

"But if women take the reins it can actually increase their sexual confidence and sense of agency, while giving men a break from having to be 'on top', psychologically as well as literally which is the standard dynamic for most couples."
 
The trick is to have an open mind to sexuality, obviously anything which causes harm to your partner or yourself isn't good (well actually it's illegal) but we're all humans and exploring the parts that make us a little different is what can make a hugely beneficial relationship. 
 
So if you're thinking you're into BDSM or want to explore it with your partner what's the next step?


Love & Sex Editor
01/19/2013
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