The dating diaries: musical dates
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Music when the lights go out


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At the end, everyone has a number and you tick on a form if you would like to see them again. I’m sorry to say I didn’t tick anyone so I went home empty handed and a little bit downhearted, if I’m honest. It’s not that I’m expecting to meet the love of my life at a silly speed dating event but I think each time you’re brave and you put yourself there for something like this, it leaves you feeling pretty exhausted. Ah well, dust yourself off missus.

I get home and a strange thing happens. Music When The Lights Go Out by The Libertines comes on my ipod and it got me thinking. First allow me to share some of the lyrics:

"Is it cruel or kind not to speak my mind and to lie to you, rather then hurt you?"

"Well I'll confess all of my sins after several large gins but still I'll hide from you, hide what's inside from you."

"And alarm bells ring when you say your heart still sings when you're with me, oh won't you please forgive me."

"I no longer feel the music..."

I'm sure this is ragingly cheesy but I really do take a lot from the sentiment - is it not just a perfect way to describe that feeling of knowing you've fallen out of love? That sinking, sorry feeling? I know I recognize it and the emotional deceit that inevitably follows. And who actually says it? Who actually fesses up that they no longer feel the music? Not many people, I reckon. It's too hard. Better to dress it up in bullsh*t.

Anyway, without making this too depressing, I actually emerge feeling positive - an epiphany, if you will. The fact is, it's important to feel the music and if you don't it's not worth it. That's why I left my last big relationship, why I'm not with anyone right now and why I won't be, until the tune is right.


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