Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have been married for over 15 years. That's no small feat by any standards, but an incredible amount of time as far as Hollywood couples go. How exactly do they do it? It's been the burning question pondered by many for years.
In an exclusive found on Necole Bitchie, Will Smith got very candid while dishing on his relationship. "Jada has made me a better person than anyone on earth could have ever done. There is nobody on Earth at this point that in my life and in my career with the successes and the things that I’ve done, there is nobody on Earth that I would still try to be better for," he revealed.
Will's words were so clearly those of a seasoned love vet that we couldn't help but take away a few invaluable tips.
Constantly aim to be the best you
"The central idea of love is not even a relationship commitment, the first thing is a personal commitment to be the best version of yourself with or without that person that you’re with. You have to every single day, mind, body, and spirit, wake up with a commitment to be better. Don’t make that same mistake tomorrow that you made today," he says.
In short: don't become complacent. Never stop striving to be a better you!
Be mindful of the people you surround yourself with
"When you look around at the six people that you spend the most time with, that’s who you are. I think that in making those decisions in who you are going to be married to, who your friends are going to be, those are really huge, critical, life decisions. Who gets to talk to you everyday, is almost like the food that you eat."
That very last line? A winner.
Marriage is a learning and growing process
"The idea is that you are two people together, but in that process, the marriage cannot be a prison. There has to be a freedom that allows a person to grow."
Growth in any relationship is key. We're only human, and bound to make mistakes. What's important is taking our errors and turning them into a lesson well learned.
Keep your insecurities in check
"When I think about my relationship with Jada, when it comes to love, as soon as you put yourself in a love relationship, you’ve got to check your insecurities. When you love somebody, and you feel yourself slipping, you will fight, scratch, and claw, to not be in that uncomfortable space."
All too often, we like to ascribe the pain from the past onto our current relationships. It's important to be able to decipher between your intuition and insecurity.
Allow love to help you confront the weakest parts of you
"You have to be willing to collide with the weakest parts of yourself. You have to look at the things about you on a higher spiritual plane. You have to look at the things about you that are cowardly, that are angry or mean, resentful. You have to be able to look at those things about yourself that are not spiritually healthy parts. Love truly is when you change yourself for a better love with someone."
Very well said.
We think Will definitely knows a thing or two about love!
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